Matrix of Severity Of Sex And Sex-Related Sins In The Bible And Their Solutions

Matrix of Severity Of Sex(and sex-related) Sins In The Bible (and solutions)

1. tendency to sin (inherent tendency, ps 51:5)
2. sin of flirting (isa 3:16)
3. sin of the mind (w/o act, lust. mt 5:28)
4. sin of the mind (w/ act, but to one's body only. masturbation. lev15:16-17 + mt 5:28. sensual{http://bible.cc/search.php?q=sensual})
5. sin of the act (w/o contractual/promisory tresspass. casual sex. 1 Sam 2:22-23)
6. sin of marrying a divorced woman (mt 5:32; luke 16:18)
7. sin of the act (polygamy/concubines. 1 tim 3:2, titus 1:6)
8. sin of the act and not taking responsibility (divorce / inability/refusal to support. mark 10:11-12)
9. sin of the act (w/ force. rape. deu 22:25)
10. sin of the act (w/ contractual/promisory tresspass. adultery / marital{bethrotal} unfaithfulness. lev 20:10)
11. sin of the act (unnatural, animal, lesbian, gay, incest. 1 cor 6:9)
12. sin of the act (w/ commerce. prostitution. 1 cor 6:16)
13. sin of the act (compound sin w/ murder. david+bathsheba. 2 sam 11)
14. sin of the act (w/ public display. Num 25).

Examples

• fornicate w/ unengaged/unbethrothed virgin -> should marry her
  "And if a man entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife." 17 "If her father utterly refuse to give her unto him, he shall pay money according to the dowry of virgins." Ex 22:16-17
• rape an unengaged/unbethrothed virgin -> should marry her
  28If a man finds a girl who is a virgin, who is not engaged, and seizes her and lies with her and they are discovered, 29then the man who lay with her shall give to the girl's father fifty shekels of silver, and she shall become his wife because he has violated her; he cannot divorce her all his days." Deu 22:28
• marrying/bethroting slaves/servants Ex 21:7-11
  And if a man sell his daughter to be a maidservant, she shall not go out as the menservants do. 8If she please not her master, who hath betrothed her to himself, then shall he let her be redeemed: to sell her unto a strange nation he shall have no power, seeing he hath dealt deceitfully with her. 9And if he have betrothed her unto his son, he shall deal with her after the manner of daughters. 10If he take him another wife; her food, her raiment, and her duty of marriage, shall he not diminish. 11And if he do not these three unto her, then shall she go out free without money.
• put away / divorce http://bible.cc/matthew/5-32.htm
  But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
  "But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife." 1 cor 7:11
• laws on sexual relations http://kingjbible.com/leviticus/18.htm
  << Leviticus 18 >>
  1And the LORD spake unto Moses, saying, 2Speak unto the children of Israel, and say unto them, I am the LORD your God. 3After the doings of the land of Egypt, wherein ye dwelt, shall ye not do: and after the doings of the land of Canaan, whither I bring you, shall ye not do: neither shall ye walk in their ordinances. 4Ye shall do my judgments, and keep mine ordinances, to walk therein: I am the LORD your God. 5Ye shall therefore keep my statutes, and my judgments: which if a man do, he shall live in them: I am the LORD.
  6None of you shall approach to any that is near of kin to him, to uncover their nakedness: I am the LORD. 7The nakedness of thy father, or the nakedness of thy mother, shalt thou not uncover: she is thy mother; thou shalt not uncover her nakedness. 8The nakedness of thy father's wife shalt thou not uncover: it is thy father's nakedness. 9The nakedness of thy sister, the daughter of thy father, or daughter of thy mother, whether she be born at home, or born abroad, even their nakedness thou shalt not uncover. 10The nakedness of thy son's daughter, or of thy daughter's daughter, even their nakedness thou shalt not uncover: for theirs is thine own nakedness. 11The nakedness of thy father's wife's daughter, begotten of thy father, she is thy sister, thou shalt not uncover her nakedness. 12Thou shalt not uncover the nakedness of thy father's sister: she is thy father's near kinswoman. 13Thou shalt not uncover the nakedness of thy mother's sister: for she is thy mother's near kinswoman. 14Thou shalt not uncover the nakedness of thy father's brother, thou shalt not approach to his wife: she is thine aunt. 15Thou shalt not uncover the nakedness of thy daughter in law: she is thy son's wife; thou shalt not uncover her nakedness. 16Thou shalt not uncover the nakedness of thy brother's wife: it is thy brother's nakedness. 17Thou shalt not uncover the nakedness of a woman and her daughter, neither shalt thou take her son's daughter, or her daughter's daughter, to uncover her nakedness; for they are her near kinswomen: it is wickedness. 18Neither shalt thou take a wife to her sister, to vex her, to uncover her nakedness, beside the other in her life time.
  
  19Also thou shalt not approach unto a woman to uncover her nakedness, as long as she is put apart for her uncleanness. 20Moreover thou shalt not lie carnally with thy neighbour's wife, to defile thyself with her. 21And thou shalt not let any of thy seed pass through the fire to Molech, neither shalt thou profane the name of thy God: I am the LORD. 22Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination. 23Neither shalt thou lie with any beast to defile thyself therewith: neither shall any woman stand before a beast to lie down thereto: it is confusion.
  
  24Defile not ye yourselves in any of these things: for in all these the nations are defiled which I cast out before you: 25And the land is defiled: therefore I do visit the iniquity thereof upon it, and the land itself vomiteth out her inhabitants. 26Ye shall therefore keep my statutes and my judgments, and shall not commit any of these abominations; neither any of your own nation, nor any stranger that sojourneth among you: 27(For all these abominations have the men of the land done, which were before you, and the land is defiled;) 28That the land spue not you out also, when ye defile it, as it spued out the nations that were before you. 29For whosoever shall commit any of these abominations, even the souls that commit them shall be cut off from among their people. 30Therefore shall ye keep mine ordinance, that ye commit not any one of these abominable customs, which were committed before you, and that ye defile not yourselves therein: I am the LORD your God.
  
• punishment for sex with bethrothed slave
  http://bible.cc/leviticus/19-20.htm
  "And whosoever lieth carnally with a woman, that is a bondmaid, betrothed to an husband, and not at all redeemed, nor freedom given her; she shall be scourged; they shall not be put to death, because she was not free."
• failed bethrotal/engagements due to disobedience
  "You shall betroth a wife, but another man will violate her" Deu 28:30
  "Thus saith the LORD, Behold, I will raise up evil against thee out of thine own house, and I will take thy wives before thine eyes, and give them unto thy neighbour, and he shall lie with thy wives in the sight of this sun. 12For thou didst it secretly: but I will do this thing before all Israel, and before the sun." 2 Sam 12:11-12
• ideal
  "And he shall take a wife in her virginity." Leviticus 21:13 (KJV)
  "If any be blameless, the husband of one wife, having faithful children not accused of riot or unruly." Titus 1:6
  "A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach;" 1 Tim 3:2
• misquoted text. others try to interpret it as allowing premarital sex between engaged couples

       DEUTERONOMY 20:6-7 (KJV)
         
          6
                 And what man is he that hath planted a vineyard, and hath
                 not yet eaten of it? let him also go and return unto his
                 house, lest he die in the battle, and another man eat of
                 it.
          7
                 And what man is there that hath betrothed a wife, and hath
                 not taken her? let him go and return unto his house, lest
                 he die in the battle, and another man take her.

• proof that premarital sex is evil -> Hophni and Phinejas
  "Now Eli was very old, and heard all that his sons did unto all Israel; and how they lay with the women that assembled at the door of the tabernacle of the congregation. 23And he said unto them, Why do ye such things? for I hear of your evil dealings by all this people." 1 Sam 2:22-23
• fornication w/ public display

      << Numbers 25 >>
      King James Version   
  
      1And Israel abode in Shittim, and the people began to commit whoredom
      with the daughters of Moab. 2And they called the people unto the
      sacrifices of their gods: and the people did eat, and bowed down to
      their gods. 3And Israel joined himself unto Baalpeor: and the anger of
      the LORD was kindled against Israel. 4And the LORD said unto Moses, Take
      all the heads of the people, and hang them up before the LORD against
      the sun, that the fierce anger of the LORD may be turned away from
      Israel. 5And Moses said unto the judges of Israel, Slay ye every one his
      men that were joined unto Baalpeor.
  
      6And, behold, one of the children of Israel came and brought unto his
      brethren a Midianitish woman in the sight of Moses, and in the sight of
      all the congregation of the children of Israel, who were weeping before
      the door of the tabernacle of the congregation. 7And when Phinehas, the
      son of Eleazar, the son of Aaron the priest, saw it, he rose up from
      among the congregation, and took a javelin in his hand; 8And he went
      after the man of Israel into the tent, and thrust both of them through,
      the man of Israel, and the woman through her belly. So the plague was
      stayed from the children of Israel. 9And those that died in the plague
      were twenty and four thousand.
  
      10And the LORD spake unto Moses, saying, 11Phinehas, the son of Eleazar,
      the son of Aaron the priest, hath turned my wrath away from the children
      of Israel, while he was zealous for my sake among them, that I consumed
      not the children of Israel in my jealousy. 12Wherefore say, Behold, I
      give unto him my covenant of peace: 13And he shall have it, and his seed
      after him, even the covenant of an everlasting priesthood; because he
      was zealous for his God, and made an atonement for the children of
      Israel.
  
      14Now the name of the Israelite that was slain, even that was slain with
      the Midianitish woman, was Zimri, the son of Salu, a prince of a chief
      house among the Simeonites. 15And the name of the Midianitish woman that
      was slain was Cozbi, the daughter of Zur; he was head over a people, and
      of a chief house in Midian.
  
      16And the LORD spake unto Moses, saying, 17Vex the Midianites, and smite
      them: 18For they vex you with their wiles, wherewith they have beguiled
      you in the matter of Peor, and in the matter of Cozbi, the daughter of a
      prince of Midian, their sister, which was slain in the day of the plague
      for Peor's sake.

• divorce
  "But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery." Mat 5:32
  "Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery." Luke 16:18
  "And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her." Mark 10:11
• flirting
  "Moreover the LORD saith, Because the daughters of Zion are haughty, and walk with stretched forth necks and wanton eyes, walking and mincing as they go, and making a tinkling with their feet:" Isa 3:16
• non-virgin wife Deut 22:13-21
  13"If any man takes a wife and goes in to her and then turns against her, 14and charges her with shameful deeds and publicly defames her, and says, 'I took this woman, but when I came near her, I did not find her a virgin,' 15then the girl's father and her mother shall take and bring out the evidence of the girl's virginity to the elders of the city at the gate. 16"The girl's father shall say to the elders, 'I gave my daughter to this man for a wife, but he turned against her; 17and behold, he has charged her with shameful deeds, saying, "I did not find your daughter a virgin." But this is the evidence of my daughter's virginity.’ And they shall spread the garment before the elders of the city. 18"So the elders of that city shall take the man and chastise him, 19and they shall fine him a hundred shekels of silver and give it to the girl’s father, because he publicly defamed a virgin of Israel. And she shall remain his wife; he cannot divorce her all his days.
  20 "But if this charge is true, that the girl was not found a virgin, 21then they shall bring out the girl to the doorway of her father's house, and the men of her city shall stone her to death because she has committed an act of folly in Israel by playing the harlot in her father's house; thus you shall purge the evil from among you.
• Laws on Divorce Deut 24
  1When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house. 2And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man's wife. 3And if the latter husband hate her, and write her a bill of divorcement, and giveth it in her hand, and sendeth her out of his house; or if the latter husband die, which took her to be his wife; 4Her former husband, which sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after that she is defiled; for that is abomination before the LORD: and thou shalt not cause the land to sin, which the LORD thy God giveth thee for an inheritance.
  5When a man hath taken a new wife, he shall not go out to war, neither shall he be charged with any business: but he shall be free at home one year, and shall cheer up his wife which he hath taken.
• lust Mt 5:28
  "But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart."
• gay(effeminate), lesbian (abusers of themselves with mankind), fornicators "9Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, 10Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God." 1 Cor 6:9-10
• prostitution
  "Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid. 16What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh. 17But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit. 18Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. 19What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? 20For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's." 1 Cor 6:15-20
• iniquity/sin at birth
  "Behold, I was shapen in iniquity; and in sin did my mother conceive me." Psalm 51:5
• sensuality http://bible.cc/search.php?q=sensual "These be they who separate themselves, sensual, having not the Spirit." Jude 1:19

Solutions

1. "Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband." 1 Cor 7:2
2. "But if they do not have self-control, let them marry; for it is better to marry than to burn with passion." 1 Cor 7:9
3. to the married
   "Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency." 1 cor 7:5
   eph 5:22
   Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
   25Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 28So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: 30For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. 31For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. 32This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband."
4. protection to repentant sinner John 8:1-11
   1Jesus went unto the mount of Olives. 2And early in the morning he came again into the temple, and all the people came unto him; and he sat down, and taught them. 3And the scribes and Pharisees brought unto him a woman taken in adultery; and when they had set her in the midst, 4They say unto him, Master, this woman was taken in adultery, in the very act. 5Now Moses in the law commanded us, that such should be stoned: but what sayest thou? 6This they said, tempting him, that they might have to accuse him. But Jesus stooped down, and with his finger wrote on the ground, as though he heard them not. 7So when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her. 8And again he stooped down, and wrote on the ground. 9And they which heard it, being convicted by their own conscience, went out one by one, beginning at the eldest, even unto the last: and Jesus was left alone, and the woman standing in the midst. 10When Jesus had lifted up himself, and saw none but the woman, he said unto her, Woman, where are those thine accusers? hath no man condemned thee? 11She said, No man, Lord. And Jesus said unto her, Neither do I condemn thee: go, and sin no more.
5. promise of justification to repentant
   "9Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, 10Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. 11And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God." 1 Cor 6:9-11
6. "... go, and sin no more" John 8:11

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Copyright © Mar 23, 2012 Winelfred G. Pasamba. Please advertise and link-to. This was compiled with the help of, i belive The Holy Spirit, and instrumental was google, bible.cc, and EGW Writings, specially "Testimonies on Sexual Behaviour, Adultery and Divorce" (TSB).